• Self Conscious


    "Dear Edie,
    Just wondering how to get rid of the anxiety???? I just started taking lessons and I know I could be a lot better than what I am showing my instructor but I am so self conscious and stiff and I don't know how to relax. When I am home dancing I am moving pretty good but I feel like a big awkward nerd when I am dancing with my instructor. Please help me learn some tips to relax a bit....
    Sincerely, - "Self Conscious"


    Dear "Self Conscious"

    I can totally relate to what you wrote. When I started I was that way. Then one day, like Magic, it just "broke". I was going through some difficult "relationship issues" and I got so pissed one night I just SLAMMED dancing. I could care LESS what people thought of me because I hated them, my boyfriend, and life in general. I was at that club DANCING UP A STORM full of RAGE AND HATE - it was a sight to see. I was "determined" to make every man drool with awe from how well I followed them, and how well I spun, and how beautiful my styling was, and then leave them wanting to dance with me more, and more... and then I would say, "See ya!" and move on my NEXT MALE VICTIM.

    It was bad.

    After the night was over, I realized I was no longer self-conscious nor insecure. It was ALL IN MY HEAD. When I started putting the focus and blame on HIM, my "self" left, and all I could think of was complete revenge with another man. I was so exhausted from dancing non-stop for five hours straight that there was no time for revenge. I got IT ALL OUT on that dance floor that very night. It was ... awesome.

    Stop looking, and focusing so much on "you", "yourself", and "your self-conscious".

    Take note and count how many "I" 's are in your paragraph above.

    That's your problem.

    Solution: Impress the heck out of THEM, and take your eyes and focus off of YOU. Show them/him/they/her/audience just how important THEY ARE. Not you.



    Happy Dancing!
    - Edie, The Salsa FREAK
    www.SalsaFreak.com
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