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    By Edie, The Salsa FREAK!!

    I was working with a small group of students the other day, and was getting two of the guys to show me a really cool move called the ‘S - Move’. It is a very simple, but FANTASTIC-feeling move that can really get screwed up if you don’t lead it correctly.

    Both of these guys had COMPLETELY different styles, and both of them had superb leads. One was more ‘Textbook Classroom’ looking, while the other had a ‘Jazzy’ type of style with load of fancy footwork and incredible body movement within his lead.

    I was curious to see how each one of them lead that move.
    The Textbook Classroom guy executed the move flawlessly, and I followed it perfectly.
    The Jazzy-style guy ALSO executed the move flawlessly, and I followed THAT perfectly as well.

    ‘HHHhhmmm’’ I thought to myself. They felt EXACTLY the same’ but LOOKED ENTIRELY DIFFERENT.

    ‘I must be tired’’ I thought to myself. So I asked both of them to lead me again, this time however, I had my eyes closed.

    Again, same thing ‘
    The Textbook Classroom guy executed the move flawlessly, and I followed it perfectly.
    The Jazzy-style guy ALSO executed the move flawlessly, and I followed THAT perfectly as well.

    THEY STILL FELT EXACTLY THE SAME.

    "WHAT’S UP WITH THAT???" I thought to myself.

    I took advantage of this little ‘experiment’, and told them I would pretend to be a ‘Heavy, pulling Beginner’.

    I closed my eyes AGAIN, pretended to be that "Heavy Pulling Beginner", and THE SAME THING HAPPENED!!!
    The Textbook Classroom guy executed the move flawlessly, and I followed it perfectly.
    The Jazzy-style guy ALSO executed the move flawlessly, and I followed THAT perfectly as well.

    They STILL ‘felt’ the SAME!!!

    Then, very innocently and politely and in a soft, loving smaller voice, I asked the Textbook guy to add more styling, and the Styling guy to lessen his Styling.

    I shut my eyes again.
    • THIS COMPLETELY SCREWED THEM UP. Messed up their leads BIG TIME.
    • Both of them felt different, their leads were off, and I couldn’t follow them very well.


    See what happens when a woman puts a man under pressure to change? HE FALLS APART.

    I noticed that prior to my asking them to change their ‘style’, they were both relaxed with them’SELVES’ and were confident in their leads.

    When I innocently asked them to change their ‘style’ ‘ it was like ripping apart the very essence of their manhood. It was as if I couldn't ‘accept’ them just the way they were, and in order to please me and make me "happy" (which is all a man wants - besides the TV remote control and a good meal) , they had to change as men.

    THAT, in a NUTSHELL ladies is how we DESTROY THE MALE EGO.


    FYI.

    Sorry I got off on a tangent, but as usual I have to throw in ‘Elements of Real Life’ in there to MAKE YOU THINK and realize how you can SUBLIMINALLY destroy a person by asking them to change WHO THEY NATURALLY ARE.

    I came to two very interesting conclusions during this experiment without even realizing it.

    1. A World Class Stylist’s Lead will ‘FEEL’ no different than a ‘No Style’ lead. The consistencies are the arm work and hand-holds. The pressure points, the momentum, the hesitation, and the thrust are identicle. The expert Stylist will execute moves that look amazing, but feel "Textbook" to his follower. This is one element of a World Class Lead

    2. Never ask someone to change [the way they naturally are]. They’ll find someone else. [to dance with]

    People DON'T CHANGE. Oh they "may appear to" change in the beginning, but this is just to "please you".
    After a while they just go back to the way they naturally are.


    Happy Dancing!
    Edie, The Salsa FREAK!!
    www.SalsaFreak.com

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      I wish more men would read this.

      There are some guys where I live that think that Men's styling is all about "them" and how "they" look, and give completely no regard to how the woman feels. I can't stand dancing with a guy who styles way out of control.

      I would rather dance all night with beginners than have to tolerate their over-styling.

    • TangoConLosTiburones
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      TangoConLosTiburones commented
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      >Then, very innocently and politely and in a soft, loving smaller voice, I asked the Textbook guy to add
      >more styling, and the Styling guy to lessen his Styling.
      I think this is the key. It takes time, practice and concentration to lead smoothly while at the same time moving gracefully (and there are many different good looking styles). Once you have developed a practiced style it costs you very little concentration to dance that style--you can spend most of your concentration energy leading her and responding to where she is and how she is moving. If you try to change your styling, you are now spending part of your concentration energy telling your body how to move and this takes away from the concentration you are using to lead! When there's less concentration left over for her, she will feel a rougher lead.

      Pretend that you have $10.00 worth of concentration in any given moment. If your skill means you only have to spend $.25 on your own steps and styling movements, you have $9.75 of concentration to spend on your partner (this translates into a nice, smooth lead for her). If you have to spend $7.50 of your concentration on your own steps and styling movements, you only have $2.50 worth of concentration left over to spend on her! Some ladies can follow a $1.00 lead (they're good) but they will definitely feel the difference. So guys, don't be a cheapskate!
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