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  • Passion


    "Dear Edie, It is 1:30 in the morning now, just before my trip to LA. I am more than a little tired/stressed. The way you open up in your letters makes a person feel like they have to open up right back, give and take. As tired as I am, thoughts just kind of flow out into the keyboard. The more I read what you write, the more I realize what true passion is, and at what points in my life I have felt it. My rambling point is that your passion for Salsa comes through even in y...
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  • Women, Women, Women!!

    Women, Women, Women!!

    "Dear Edie, My friend and I have a long-running competition for the number of different women we can dance with in a single evening. The rules are that it has to be a partner dance (eg. Salsa, Merengue, Cha Cha, etc.) and you have to dance the whole dance except for a small allowance for changing partners between records. The record used to be 22 which I held for about a year but at a recent function I managed 30. My friend danced all night and only managed 21 because he wa...
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  • Where to Buy Salsa Clothing

    Where to Buy Salsa Clothing

    "Dear Edie,
    I've seen you out dancing, and you are quite a site to watch. Where do you buy your clothes??
    I've searched so many places, and cannot find good "Salsa" clothing.
    I'll want to go out some nights and won't have anything to wear!!"
    - Naked

    Dear Naked,
    I buy a lot of my clothing from Thrift stores believe it or not. You would not believe what people throw away! I mean, I've even found stuff with the tag still attached to it!* I...
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  • Hot and Steamy Salsa

    Hot and Steamy Salsa

    "Dear Edie,
    Is Salsa sexual. My husband feels that it isn't. I think it is. I base that on the following:
    • Eye contact
    • Waist touching
    • Latin beat
    • Fast movement
    • Short dresses
    • Night Club scene..etc.

    Let me know...
    - Curious..."
    Dear "Curious," You can see about just how "sensual" Salsa can be all over Youtube. Personally, you can make it what you want it to be. For me...
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  • L'il Etiquette

    L'il Etiquette

    "Dear Edie,
    What is proper etiquette? The man to lead the way to the dance floor or the gal?
    Hmmm? Let me know.
    - Lil' Etiquette"
    Dear Lil' Etiquette, Since the woman is the one who is following, it is only natural, that she "follow" her partner to the dance floor. It looks so nice when a man gently pulls his partner to the dance floor by one hand. If a woman takes the guy's hand, and pulls him to the dance floor, it appears that she is the domineering one; ...
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  • Bad Taste

    Bad Taste

    "Dear Edie, I used to always wear something real "hot" to go dancing. People didn't exactly fall in line to dance with me though, and I figured it was because I'm white and I haven't established myself as a Salsera here in [the city]. One night, a Friday, I was so tired from work that I didn't change for [a hot Salsa club]: I just wore black slacks and a simple, conservative white blouse. I never sat down. So many men asked me to dance! So I've experimented with this and got a lot more co...
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  • But I'm Asian

    But I'm Asian

    I enjoy your column. Insightful, humorous and true in many respects. However, I must qualify your statement about Take a Private Lesson to Get Better...when women say no. I believe you are being a bit simplistic in your explanation of what constitutes a no. As in any situation, prejudices abound in some form or another and there may well be other forces at work against you. I know quite a few friends who have been turned down because of the way they look. To some, appearances are the pri
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  • Salsa Keeps You YOUNG!

    Salsa Keeps You YOUNG!

    "Dear Edie, So now I'll come out straight, how, or what do you think about ...age..., where do you think age becomes a matter (if it already does), or age becomes a bother (i hope it never will). Though I do not like to admit it I am not in my twenties anymore. Its a lot worse I am 39. Now there is this litle voice in me whispering sometimes "girl are you not getting to old for this"? I tell myself As long as it makes me feel the way it does (heavenly)as long as i am in g...
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  • Raw Nipples

    Raw Nipples

    Dear Edie,
    I really want to thank you Edie. Ever since you gave me your tips on cross dress for Latino men in need of female cross dressing company (wow! now that is a long ass book title if i ever saw one!), i just can't keep the women off of me. I'm so popular at the clubs with my hairy legs exposed that women just trip and go ga-ga over me.

    Though I have a little favor to ask. if I decide not to wear a bra, how can I avoid the soreness due to the rawness
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  • Going Alone

    Going Alone

    going alone, alone

    "Dear Edie, I am planning to go Salsa dancing alone this weekend. This will be my first time unaccompanied by a man or even girlfriends. I was wondering if you could give me some tips and etiquette advice on how to carry myself with class yet not look too desperate to dance. I don't want anyone getting the wrong idea about my being there alone. Should I lie to them and say I'm meeting someone so I won't look so vulnerable? Also, where should I sit, at th...
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