mad_dancers.jpgDancing MAD!!
Taking it Out on the Dance Floor [of life]


How many people dance better MAD AS HELL?

It doesn’t matter what it is, when I am angry, mad, or frustrated’ I GO DANCE IT OFF!! This works every time. I realized this when I was going through my divorce. I never danced better in my entire life. My performances shot to an entirely new level. My spins were sharper, faster, and more precise. My social dancing shimmered with a new excitement and style unmatched. My dance partners were stunned, and my husband wanted me BACK.

‘Edie, how can you spin so fast like that? I can’t even see you! You’re a Blur!!’
I got mad. And that’s the honest truth.

Sometimes one can get to a place in one’s life when you just say, ‘This is ENOUGH. I’VE HAD IT, AND I’M NOT GOING TO TAKE IT ANYMORE.’

I say if you can’t accomplish something, especially if it’s physical, go about it in an angry fashion. Get upset. Get pissed off, rant and rage on that dance floor with every move you make ‘ WITHOUT HURTING NOR AFFECTING YOUR PARTNER IN ANY WAY.

Three Things to Do When You Are Genuinely ENRAGED

1. NEVER Let Your Anger Affect Your Partner.
Remember, YOU are the one that ALLOWED whomever or whatever to get YOU upset. If you are upset, then that is YOUR PROBLEM. YOU allowed this to affect YOU. You could have just ignored it, blown it off, or tossed the thoughts aside, but Noohoohooo’ YOU let it get to you. This DOES NOT mean you can vamp all over your partner about things that get YOU down. Your partner may not even know you! They have no clue what is going on in YOUR life and YOUR head, so do THEM a favor and LEAVE THEM OUT OF IT. They accepted a dance with you. They are there WITH YOU and FOR YOU on that dance floor of life, holding your hand WHILE YOU GET THROUGH THIS NIGHTMARE AND DEAL WITH IT. They are there to HELP you, not make things worse. So leave them out of your emotions ‘ entirely. It’s YOUR problem, you made your own bed, now sleep in it. You’re upset because you ALLOWED it to upset you. Your partner could truly care less about YOUR problems.

2. Be the BEST for your Partner
Guys, be the ABSOLUTE BEST Leader for Her in the WORLD, and PROVE IT.
Gentlemen, this means taking that angry, frustrated negative energy and funneling it into making her feel the best she’s ever felt ‘ your lead must feel BETTER THAN SEX in EVERY regard to her. No matter what level she is, your lead must feel consistent, strong, and smooth like butter and with the precision of a Mercedes Benz. On that dance floor of life, you must take care of her, comfort her, love her, nourish her, cherish her and most of all RESPECT her. She accepted this dance with you, and is holding YOUR HAND right now, helping you get over whatever it is that is bothering you. She is completely oblivious to the baggage you’re carrying right now. Look at this woman as your SHRINK (therapist) on the dance floor of life, there with you, supporting you, loving you, and taking care of you. Why? Because you are leading her to perfection ‘ in more ways than you can possibly imagine. Your sole objective is to give her her ‘Fix’ for the evening so she will only dream of dancing with YOU forever.
Ladies, be the ABSOLUTE BEST Follower for him in the WORLD, and PROVE IT.
Ladies, this means taking that pent up, frustrated negative energy and channeling it into making him look the best he’s ever looked ‘ your follow must feel BETTER THAN SEX in EVERY regard to him. No matter what level he is, your follow must feel consistent, sharp, and smooth like butter and with the precision of a Ferrari. On that dance floor of life, you must take care of him, comfort him, love him, nourish him, cherish him and most of all RESPECT him. He accepted this dance with you, and is holding YOUR HAND right now, helping you get over whatever it is that is bothering you. He is completely oblivious to the baggage you’re carrying right now. Look at this man as your SHRINK (therapist) on the dance floor of life, there with you, supporting you, loving you, and taking care of you. Why? Because you are following him to perfection ‘ in more ways than you can possibly imagine. Your sole objective is to give him his ‘Fix’ for the evening so she will dream only of dancing with YOU forever.

3. Demolish Your Weaknesses When Out of Your Mental ‘Happy Zone’
Many of us have little things that bother us about the way we dance. It may be our spins, it may be our styling, or it may be an acrobatic trick we’re trying to accomplish for a show. These are self-sabotaging mindsets that tend to hinder our growth because we keep focusing on how we ‘just can’t do it yet’ and/or how ‘sorry we are’ over and over again. However we ponder about these things in a relatively comfortable and happy mindset. This puts us in a comfortable state of mind of ‘This Thing’ never getting any better, but we’re ‘happy’ anyway so it’s relatively ok. This results in it NEVER getting any better because we are still in a mindset of ‘HAPPY’.

Did you get that? It was hard to write.

As most of us know, over-focusing on things we can’t achieve can negatively affect other areas of our lives and health. This happens especially to women who compare themselves too often to gorgeous models, and younger, faster, acrobatic gymnasts on crack who can lift their ankles next to their ears during a triple spin.

Let’s look at a different mindset. For the sake of what is TRUE verses what is only in your MIND, let’s say that your SPINS are horrible for example.
  • You’re not ALWAYS mad, right?
  • Do you consider yourself ‘relatively happy most of the time’?
  • Notice that you CANNOT SPIN when you are ‘relatively happy most of the time’.
  • Get it?


Well here’s what you do.

When you are TRULY, ROYALLY AND HONESTLY ENRAGED ‘ and it has to be FIERCE, (or that time of the month, whichever comes first) take this unique opportunity to ‘SPIN TO PERFECTION’. And don’t just ‘try’. (’Trying’ is for cowards and fools - get that word out of your vocabulary starting TODAY)
JUST DO IT. DO THE SPIN. Take all that ‘mad negative’ energy and DO THE SPIN TO PERFECTION RIGHT THEN AND THERE. Get it DONE THAT SECOND - and don’t wait till you’re content and happy again. Don’t wait for a good dance floor, don’t wait till you go out, just DO IT right then and there ‘ in the bathroom, in the kitchen, at work, WHERE EVER.

You ‘will’ shock yourself.


Remember that you MUST be genuinely, utterly SUPER MAD before and during that spin. You can’t fake genuine "madness" - it even has to be proven in court. I don’t care how good of an actor you are. I accomplished some of the most amazing acrobatic performance feats over forty years of age when I was going through my divorce. It is unbelievable what all that negative energy can create ‘ or destroy. The great thing about ‘Taking it out on the Dance Floor’ is that you can funnel that energy into your own personal growth out there ‘ with someone holding your hand the entire time.

AAaaaahhh Salsa. What a Blessing you are.




Happy Dancing!! (... or wait, I should say... "Mad Dancing!!" Ha Ha ha!!! )
- Edie, The Salsa FREAK!!
www.SalsaFreak.com











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Edie, The Salsa FREAK!! is one of the most recognized and respected Salsa Writers/Instructor/Performers in the world. In the past twenty years, she has traveled to 63 countries teaching the world to dance, and has been the first American to teach in 18 of those countries.

She now lives in the high mountains of beautiful Colorado with her wonderful husband, Nick. You may contact her at www.SalsaFreak.com